You might recall in my last post I talked about my annual #Metime list, well last year I went right out of my comfort zone and put down “Take a kid-free girls trip”. Even writing it I felt the dreaded mum guilt. How could I possibly leave my family and go away (gasp) on my own?!
But go away I did. In August I had 4 delicious days in Bali. I met one of my favourite girlfriends who lives in Sydney over there and for the first time since I became a mum I laid down some of that mental load and remembered what it was like to be me.
We ladies, mums in particular seem to think things will fall in a heap if we aren’t here, before heading away I made an embarrassingly detailed list for my partner of “kid things he needed to know”, labelled the panadol bottle with the kids dosage amounts in case of emergency and left enough supplies to last a whole winter. It wasn’t because I thought @justanaussiedad wouldn’t cope, far from it. This was merely my way of feeling less guilty about leaving. I now realise that not only did I get a huge amount from a few days alone, my whole family benefited. The kids had an absolute ball and bonded with dad in new ways. They weren’t sad and honestly didn’t seem too phased I was gone.
I had a chance for the first time in almost 5 years to be alone with my thoughts, to think about my future and really reflect on where I am at in this stage of my life. The time and space away from my home gave me clarity and I came home feeling refreshed and focused on the future.
If your kids are old enough and you feel ready to leave them for a night or two then why not add this to your 2020 #metime list. It doesn’t have to be expensive or too long, just far enough away that you can relax the reigns and remember who you were before you became mum.